Why is it these days that society looks down on young mothers?
I'm not talking about teenage mothers here but young mothers in there early 20's even if they are married. My Grandma was 19 when she had her first child and barley married a full year. Both my mom and Dave's mom were 21 when they had us. So what has changed? Why do people treat me like I'm not capable to be a good parent?
By the time Dave and I were married we had been together for almost 6 years so we knew we wanted to have children and we both wanted to have them while we were young. So thats what we did, we started trying a month before our wedding. One miscarrage and 7 months later we found out I was pregnant. By the time I had Emma I was 22 and Dave and I had been married a little over a year. I don't see anything wrong with this senerio so I'm confused about why I have to hear women, particularlly women in their 30's, make comments about 20 somethings not being ready to raise children.
I'm sure not all women in their 30's feel this way, just like not all women in their early or even late 20's make good parents but for cryin out loud some of us are and were ready to be parents.
I'm sure this is obvious but I have been dealing with a few older women at work who continue to make comments around me about this topic. These women know my age, and they know I have two kids but that doesn't seem to matter. At first I tried to tell myself they weren't talking about me but the more they say the more personally I take it. To top it off both of these women are not married and they don't have children of their own. I know they want children and I'm sure it's hard for them to see younger women with husbands and children but that is not my fault and that certanily doesn't make me a bad mom.
For those of you women who waited to have kids until you were older great I'm sure you made the descisson to suit what was best for you. For Dave and I the life we wanted meant kids in our 20's. We are the ones that take care of them, cloth them, feed them, out a roof over their heads, and teach them things just like all those 30 something parents do. Yes we may have struggled financially for a few years and maybe had we waited to ahve kids until we were older we wouldn't have gone through that, but our children never wanted for anything so why does it matter.
I just don't get what age has to do with being a good mother or not that's all.